I’m SO excited to see who all joins us for our Outside the Frame link-up!
I’m just going to open up for a moment and be really vulnerable: This link-up terrifies me. I so badly want it to be successful, and I feel that if I fail at this one thing I just cannot be a successful blogger. The first week three people linked up and I cried a little bit inside. I basically told myself not to look ever again and just write because I enjoy writing, and hope that this link-up will inspire others to write.
Wellll, the second week 7 people linked up! You guys!!! 7 is a totally crappy number. BUT, BUT, BUT…NOT FOR ME! 7 is a total win. It’s more than twice the amount of people who linked up the first time! So this week I’m hoping for 14! Spread the word, bloggers! I’d love for more people to join us! And please, please, don’t forget to click through the other bloggers and leave some comment love. You might just find your new favorite blog out there!
This weeks prompt is all about Valentines Day: How do you feel the loved?
First, let’s just take a moment and leave this here:
If you have not yet read this book, then you need to stop what you are doing and go to Amazon and order it. Right now. It’s written by a Christian pastor and has lots of spiritual emphasis, but I think that it can apply to anyone from any walk of life, religious or not.
If you have no clue what I’m talking about, The Five Love Languages are gifts, words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch and acts of service. You can take this quiz to find out which one is your love language.
Yesterday I wrote a blog post all about how Theo won my heart. He’s a pretty great guy.
But winning a girls heart is not the hard part. Keeping that girls heart all yours is the hard part. When kids come along and the money gets scarce and the job hours are long and the lovey dovey feelings have faded- THAT is when choosing to love becomes the most important thing.
So first let me start with Theo. Theo is an acts of service and a words of affirmation type guy. He loves it when I do a chore for him unexpectedly. He loves it when I write a note that affirms all his wonderful qualities.
So why should it surprise me when he steps up and does the dishes for me? Why should it surprise me to hear him say that he finds me attractive? He is, in fact, showing me love!
It took us a year or two to figure out that our love langauges are very, very different. While I appreciate Theo doing the dishes, it doesn’t scream “I LOVE YOU” to me (call me blind and dumb). But when he brings me some flowers? Wow, then I sure do feel incredibly loved!
I learned after reading the above book that my love languages are gifts and words of affirmation. So of course when I go to the store I pick up a little something for Theo- a candy treat, a pair of gloves- just something small that I think would tell Theo “I LOVE YOU”. I was shocked to find that Theo cared more about the price of the item than the fact that I bought it for him!
The ways I feel most loved are through gifts. It doesn’t have to be a big, extravagant gift. I just need it to tell me that someone was thinking of me and used either time or money to gift me something. That seriously just feels up my love tank. I also love hearing from people that I’m doing an excellent job. Seriously, every comment on this here blog is read and re-read and often written down in the pages of my journal for me to keep forever. When Theo praises me and encourages me, I just feel so incredibly loved.
Our love languages are very different. And it took us a while to figure it out. You see, we both need to feel the love. We both need to feel that we are loved. But we also both need to remember to give love. I wrote another blog post a few months back on what to do when your love languages are completely different. I’ll leave you with these two things:
1. Remember to accept love in their language. When Theo does the dishes, I can intentionally choose to feel loved through that action
2. Remember to love your spouse in their love language.
So as Valentines Day approaches, I want to encourage you to learn about your spouse. Cut out all the advertising and our cultures standards of what a good Valentines gift is, and instead try to find out what would make your spouse feel most loved- and DO IT.
So what about you? How do you feel the most loved? Join the link up by responding to the prompt on your blog and then returning here and entering in the link!
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