Foster Care and Adoption

Foster Care

Since the fall of man, sin is prevalent in our world. Sin makes broken people, and broken people create brokenness in our world. One huge piece of brokenness in our world (all throughout history and today) is the abandonment of a child, whether that child is left as an orphan, or is abandoned for other reasons. Foster care, in essence, is not a new notion, or an “American” notion. Throughout history, the care of orphans and abandoned children has occurred through kinship care (when the next of kin automatically takes responsibility for the child), indentured servitude (where the child works as an apprentice or farmhand for his/her room and food), orphanages (where the state takes care of orphaned/abandoned children in a large home often full of other orphans), or foster care (where a child is placed in a family setting to be taken care of or raised).

Whether one of these methods is more biblical or helpful than others, I do not want to debate. There is no solution that is perfect for all orphans. Orphans only exist because of broken, sinful situations, and sometimes those situations are tackled as problems that we can solve. However, they are not problems that we can or even should solve, but instead that we can and should inject with the love and grace and mercy of Christ.

Each situation of brokenness is a chance for Christ to shine more brightly, to redeem more beautifully, to change more miraculously.

That is why we have chosen to become foster parents.

The HIStory

Ever since I was young, I have had a huge heart for orphans, and those in desperate need. Growing up in one of the poorest countries in the world was probably the biggest factor in wanting to adopt.

I always wanted to adopt from Africa. Theo has simply always wanted to adopt, no preference of where or who.

For our first Christmas, we were given a book titled ‘Orphanology’. The book is a gospel-centered approach to orphan care world-wide. I had always wanted to adopt, but after reading this book, both Theo and I felt convicted that it was not only an option, but a mandate for us as Christians to care for the orphans (Please note…it is a MANDATE to care for orphans. It is not a mandate to ADOPT. It is a mandate to CARE FOR the orphans…one way to do this is through adoption).

We began to do our research into adopting internationally, and soon realized that it would probably not work well for us. It was both expensive, and we did not fit most countries criteria for adopting (you have to be at least 25, and married for at least 5 years, etc). So we turned to domestic adoption. As we began doing our research in domestic adoption, God flung open another door that we had not even THOUGHT about: Foster Care.

The process to become foster parents has not been in our hands since the beginning. The process took us over two years. You can read more about that story here.

It amazes me to look back and see how narrow-minded I was about adoption. I wanted what I wanted. I was doing a good deed, so I could pick who, how and why that good deed was done. I didn’t realize at the time that I was thinking like that, but as God has brought us on this journey, He has clearly revealed that to me. Just as I am learning that I was narrow-minded at the beginning, I know that we have so much more to learn on this journey.

Here are some of the posts that I have written regarding foster care and adoption, and our journey through it:

Foster Care Fears and Worries

How I Planned My Week vs. How God Planned My Week (the initial phone call)

What the Church Can Do for Foster Parents

Adjusting (the first week with our first placement)

Helpful Adoptive/Foster Bloggers

Guest Post: International Adoption

Guest Post: Adoption from Foster Care

Thankfulness in Foster Care

Things I’m learning as a Foster Parent

The Common Comments  (what most people say to me as a foster Mom, and what you could say instead…)

A Day in the Life of a Foster Parent  (you might be surprised that it’s pretty much exactly the same as the day in a life of any ‘ol Mom!)

A Day in the Life of a Foster Mom (all the details that are totally different from a day in the life of any ‘ol Mom!)

Pro-Life

The Organized Foster Parent

Our Village Loves Well

Things You Need for Fostering a Newborn

Why Foster Care is Good for Biological Children

The First “No”

A Letter To Little Miss

The Financial Aspect

A Letter To Her Mom

Foster Care/Adoption books and resources

Waiting for the End

Saying goodbye

Please do not hesitate to ask me any questions that you might have about foster care or adoption! It would be my pleasure to answer them.

 

2 comments

  1. Erin says:

    This was really awesome to read! I related to it a lot. I’ve also always known I wanted to adopt. And I know we’ve chatted before about how we both started fostering young 🙂 I appreciated your honesty on the last part. This is something we all do, and something we all need to work on. Most people just don’t have the honesty to admit it.

  2. Jenni says:

    I can really identify with this post. I was also very narrow minded about adoption. Thankfully I let go of control and God took me on a crazy good journey that we are still on (4 children later). Thanks for linking up!

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