The word itself sends shudders of dread into every parent.
Although I am known for being open, authentic and honest, having a conversation about our discipline strategies terrifies me.
We are all so different. We all parent differently, and each family has a unique range of ages, personalities and backgrounds.
Theo and I have always been fairly decent at conflict resolution. We have plenty of conflict, but we can resolve it within a day. But one of our biggest reoccurring conflicts is over how to discipline our children.
It’s mostly a personality thing. I want to be kind and loving and helpful and smooth out any waves of conflict, while Theo wants to use tough love and make sure that the children in his household can learn important lessons and don’t grow up to be like the people he arrests on a daily basis.
Throw in a foster child, who is practically a stranger, who has never had rules and expectations, and who has a background of trauma, abuse and neglect… and we have the perfect storm.
Most of the time, we have absolutely no idea what we are doing. We are so weak and we don’t know how to proceed. Our hearts ache with the brokenness of this world and the brokenness of our children’s hearts. We long to bring them closer to Christ and to discipline so that they can grow up to be functioning adults and understanders of the grace of God.