I’m not sure why I picked this book as my first pick when I signed up for BookLook Bloggers book reviews.
Honestly, I think it’s because I’m terrified of losing Tera, whether in a tragic way or through a slow sickness. There have been several instances recently that a story has popped up on my news feed about a child dying. And not just on my news feed. Personal friends have lost loved ones. I have mostly opted to not even read those articles, as I can no longer stand to think about how that would feel to go through.
But I understand that I have no more control over something bad like that happening than any of those Moms did. It’s not up to me to choose the days of my daughters life. So I think I finally decided to face my fears head-on and read this story.
The book is called Grief: A Mama’s Unwanted Journey by Shelley Ramsey. It is a short book that details the death of Shelley’s son, Joseph, and the following days, weeks, months and years of mourning that took place within their family after his life was taken in a car accident. When I say detailed…I mean…detailed. And it’s the most humbling, glorious look into grief I have ever seen. Grief is something that happens to other people, and if you don’t know grief, you don’t know what is going on. But Shelley opens up her heart and lets us in, and it is a powerful peek into the world that those who have lost loved ones go through.
Let me tell you what. I can’t recommend it. Not to everyone.
No, this is a special book. For special people.
If you are a Mama dealing with losing your child, this is a book you need to read only after you have grieved for a little while on your own. You will find incredible comfort in the words and the details that this sweet Mama writes out. She does not leave a single detail out of her grief journey. For that reason, I would not recommend you reading it soon after your own loss. It is almost too many details for me to stomach, and I know I have never even come close to the pain that you are feeling.
Now, this book is for you RIGHT NOW if you have a friend that has lost a child. I INSIST that you read this book. You MUST. You will understand their grief and the process in a much different light after reading this Mom’s journey.
As I was reading the story, I kept coming across quotes that I wanted to include in this review. I could probably fill up this entire blog post with quotes from the book, but instead I will just close with one quote and then encourage you to check out the book yourself.
Friend, your grief will not look the same as mine, but it will overtake you. Sometimes in ways you might expect, sometimes in ways you will never see coming. You may find comfort in visiting family and friends when I couldn’t. You, too, may forget to show up to all kinds of appointments. You may fall apart in public on a day you don’t expect. The important thing is that you recognize that your grief will manifest in different ways at different times and you need to give yourself the time, space and permission to let it happen.
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