Before I dive into my personal 2019 goal recap and goal setting for 2020, I wanted to share some awesome questions that I have been using the past few years to help me reflect and set new goals. I will admit that I am absolutely a “New
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What makes you feel most alive?
What parts of your job do you appreciate? What parts frustrate you? Is there anything you can do to change the frustrating parts or change your attitude towards those parts?
What do you want to learn more about in 2020?
What do you want to do more of and less of in 2020?
What can we intentionally put on our calendar in 2020? What can we intentionally take off?
Physical
How have you stewarded your body well this year?
How have you misused your body?
What would you like to accomplish physically in 2020?
What disciplines will you complete to achieve those goals?
Spiritual
Do you feel nearer or further from God in comparison to last year?
What do you believe attributed to that?
What has God revealed about himself to you this year?
What purposes for the Kingdom make your heart beat faster?
What purposes for the kingdom do you have to die to self to complete?
What disciplines or practices do you want to do this year to grow closer to God and serve others better?
Marriage/Parenting (ask to each other)
What did you learn about me this year?
In what ways did I make you feel loved?
In what ways can I improve in making you feel like a priority?
What everyday tasks make you feel appreciated?
What concerns do you have with each child?
What strengths do we see in each child?
What skills/fruits of the Spirit do we want to cultivate in each child?
What specific prayer do we want to pray for each child and our marriage?
Financial
What is our debt?
What is our savings?
How much are we giving? Can we give more? If so, where would you like to give?
Are there any areas we overspend?
Are there any big expenses we need to anticipate in 2020?
What are our financial goals for savings, debt, increased income? How will we accomplish these goals?
Now, for a recap of my 2019 goals. You can read my blog post where I listed my 2019 goals here. And you can read all about my 2019 word of the year (ABUNDANCE) here.
Some goals I crushed, some I just didn’t quite work hard enough for, and some I flat out failed.
Blog Goals:
100% FAILED. I didn’t meet a single blog goal. I didn’t post consistently, I didn’t hit my goal views, I didn’t get the interaction or the followers I wanted to get and I didn’t make a penny. I’m not even going to list what the goals were because I literally failed every single one of them. I did have my blog redesigned by the ladies at @getsocialcollab, and I cannot recommend them enough! I also started and accomplished parts of The Enjoyment Project, but mostly fell flat on my butt in that area, too. Woof. That was a rough year “professionally”.
Spiritual (2/4)
- Memorize Ps 119 (Nope. Not even close.)
Learn how to STUDY the Bible, not just read itThanks to Dayton Women in the Word, I really feel like I was able to do this. I still have so much more work, but I’m so much better at this than I was a year ago!)- Set an alarm and pray daily (Eh. Not well enough to say I’ve accomplished this one)
Pray nightly with Theo(We started off the year really well, then dropped this habit, but have picked it back up in the last few months of the year. The best habit I’ve established this year by far!)
Physical (3/3)
Run 500 miles(I lost track. But with half marathon training, I know that I accomplished this one!)Run a half marathonDon’t get pregnant(I’m not being flippant or undermining the incredible gift that pregnancy/babies are…mybody and my household just truly need a break)
Marriage and Family (3.5/4)
Work with Kiah to speak a full sentence(My boy is doing SO WELL!)- Greet Theo at the door when he comes home;
kiss him goodbye when he leaves(we got the kissing goodbye part down, but I’m usually camped out on the couch when he gets home anddon’t get up to greet him…need to work on that) Start Kindergarten with TeraTake a family vacation (We didn’t do this. We used all of our vacation time on our trip to FL, and Theo used four weeks of time off in August for his hamstring injury, but neither of those things felt feel like a vacation at all). So maybe it counts? But it doesn’t feel like it should…Find enjoyment in spending my days with my children(Some days I really well with this, some days not so much. But I will say that I was 1000% more INTENTIONAL about this than I have ever been before. So I am going to continue to work on this, but I am happy with where I’ve come from)
Home (4/8)
- Sell our house for profit (LOL.)
Downsize to a smaller home(does it count if we upsized back again?)Operate an AirbnbHang a family photo(and it even had Ezra in it! And then we took it down three weeks later to move out, and now I have zero family photos hung!)- Host a family or activity 2x a month (Nope. I’m still lacking in the hosting department)
Bake bread weekly(This has become such a habit that I don’t really think about it much anymore)- Host playdates (I don’t know that I hosted a single playdate?)
- Have an
open door policy (I’d like to say that I do, but I don’t feel like many people came through the door. So still working on this one)
Habits/Hobbies (3/6)
- Brush my teeth 2x a day (
Embarassed to admit that this is still a habit I struggle with at 28 years old) Write 1 card/note a week.(I actually did really well at this!)- Publish a book (This was one of my HUGE goals, and it makes my heart so sad that I wasn’t able to accomplish it. Hopefully coming in 2020)
Read 50 books(I read 59 books!)Keep a book/podcast journal- Leave
phone in the other room at night (What? This was a goal? Well, FAIL).
Well, all told I set 25 goals for myself in 2019, and I only accomplished 15.5 of them. But, still…by the grace of God, I was able to complete FIFTEEN goals this year. I’ll take it. And now for my 2020 goals…
2020 Goals
Publish my book
Volunteer amongst a community that I am passionate about helping
Run a 10k
Memorize Ps. 91
Read 45 books
Publish 100 blog posts
Sell our home
Host guests 1x a month
Make an intentional date night (at home or out) without screens at least 1x a month
Quit “fast fashion”
Continue to build a relationship with CHESS
Work on having all three kids sleep through the night on a fairly regular basis
As a result of that, build a consistent morning routine (devotions, blog, workout)
Work on teaching my children to not complain when they come to the table for dinner
By the end of the year, Tera can cook one dinner for the family. Spend one night a week teaching/training her in the kitchen
Write one letter or card every week
Stand up and go to the door to greet Theo when he comes home
Pray: nightly with Theo, and consistently for five minutes during my devotions time.
Get away without kids: just me; just Theo; the two of us together
Take a family vacation
Establish a consistent homeschool routine
Figure out the preschool plan for Kiah
I know some of those are vague! Some of my goals are far more laid out and less vague in my personal journal, but I don’t feel comfortable sharing them here. Some of them like “establish a consistent homeschool routine” could look a million different ways, so I don’t want to make it too specific. Basically, I want to work hard to find our stride in that area, and if at the end of 2020, I can say I have a good routine in that area, that will satisfy me.
What goals do you have for 2020? What habits do you want to establish?